Family Systems

Unhealthy	Healthy
a. Implied "no talk" rule.	a. Open communication.
b. Internalization of feelings.	b. Open expression of feelings.
c. Unspoken expectations.		c. Explicit rules.
d. Entangled relationships.		d. Respect for individuality.
e. Control of one another.		e. Feeling of family freedom.
f. Ambiguous values.		f. Sense of spirituality.
g. Rigid attitudes.		g. Flexible, changing attitudes.
h. Families that submit to the rigors of tradition regardless of individual family members' attitudes toward those rules and rituals.	h. Flexible respect for tradition.
i. Grim atmosphere.	i. Joyful atmosphere.
j. Chronic illness.	j. Healthy individuals.
k. Dependent relationships.	k. Support for change and growth.
l. Jealousy.	l. Trust.
m. Major focus around one person.	m. Equal distribution of family attention.